Moving Forward

By Heather

Now I know that this blog is entitled "Misadventures of Working Retail" and I know I haven't made any posts of working retail lately. One, being that I have changed jobs and yet to have any bad experiences with co-workers (which is unlikely at any rate cause there are only two of them and they remind me of my brother and his friend I aptly call "the butt" so therefore have no qualms with either of them). Two I've only been working there for three weeks so I've yet to become embittered enough to write anything worth reading about. And hopefully I never will become embittered with it because I'm more than ready to be in a job that I enjoy doing. I'm going to take a while to decide on re-purposing this blog as a wait and see what happens but I will continue making posts about random aspects of my life like the title also states "...and Random Posts about My Life". But as always I promise it to be entertaining.

Now having started this new job Ryan and I are now on the same pay schedule. We were on alternating pay weeks and I am going to say, that was grand. But now having to re-work bills suddenly and juggle a few till next pay therefore having to pay late fees has kinda brought us back down from the new job high. We are sweating a bit but its nothing we can't handle and nothing that we haven't had to do before. I was out with my best good friend Panda yesterday, planning for her wedding, putting center piece ideas together and we were out most the day. It was the longest I had gone without seeing Ryan in a few weeks. What I like most about this job is that I've had more time with him in the passed three weeks than I had in two years at working at my last job. But I digress, I got home around nine and when I got in it looked like Ryan had just lost all the blood in his face. I thought something horrible happened. He told me that since I didn't get paid last week because of the change in jobs we could only afford to pay half of our bills and we'd have to pay the rest next pay to catch up. He was stressed because ever since our bank account got hacked and the bank took forever to re inverse us for the loss we have been hardly able to get ahead and stay there. Now to all you married women or even you women out there in a relationship I'm going to impart some very powerful nurturing advice to you on how to comfort your man when this happens. Are you ready for this spectacular and revolutionary tactic? Stand in front of him while he's sitting and place his face in your boobs. Trust me, it works.

Before you accuse me of being dirty there is logic behind his tactic. One, other than the fact that they being smothered by fun bags, they can hear your heartbeat which is a proven fact to make them feel calm and relaxed even if it is in the slightest amount. Two, this gesture is made that you understand their frustration and that you are there now. Three, this is a gesture of love and that immediately makes the stress level go down. Four, no lack of money can make this go away. You can now assure them that yeah, things are harder but not undo able, the budget will just have to be tighter for the next few months or how ever long it takes. It won't always be winter, that massive gas bill won't always be there. There is always a silver lining. And Five, humor, using your fun bags to distract them from their financial brooding. But a good distraction never the less.


You can argue my tactics all you want but I have substantial proof for that at least in my case it works. Knowing how to keep a balance, when to make each other heavier and each other lighter is a good sense to have. Yeah, we are a young couple, we are going to make financial mistakes, but they are ones we learn from and learn to avoid. You can warn your kids all you want but those mistakes are going to happen with or without your input, that much I've learned. Not that we don't appreciate the advice and warnings and I'd like to say that I listen and do as I'm advised but never really do. Sorry for that, but its true. The follow up to this tactic is to turn everything off and go to bed. A good nights sleep can take a huge load off. A wise man I worked with at my last job once said this "When you get older you come to realize there are only two things worth their weight in gold. A good nights sleep, and a good bowel movement." More and more I'm finding this to be true...oddly enough. At least for the sleeping part. I guess the point of this blog is that things are never as dark as they seem and to never let things like finances bring you down to far. If you let it get you down to far it gets really hard to see out.

And that is my nugget of advice and humor for the day.